self-seeking

The more we want from others, the less we seem to get. "I want what I
want when I want it!" is a setup for pain. To constantly expect and
demand from others is like feeding fat to our egos. They grow spoiled.
After a while, we become obsessed with controlling others. Every
rejection is magnified by our blaming anger. We feel we have an empty
hole inside that must be filled by others.

When we stop expecting, demanding, and controlling, new miracles
begin to happen. People actually start to move toward us. We become
safe to others as they sense they can freely choose to give or not to give
to us.

To the extent that we want something from someone, to that exact
degree we will be in pain.

Today let me know that what I have been needing all my life is really
inside me.

-anonymous.